30 Reasons Why Pastors Fail to Seek Counsel for Issues in their Life:

Notes from Kenneth Maresco, “Accountable Pastors/Accountable Churches,” 
2005 Sovereign Grace Pastor’s Conference

  1. I don't need help on this one; I know what to do.
  2. Do I really need help? After all I am a pastor.
  3. I'll confess it when I've repented completely.
  4. I've got the Bible, I've got the Holy Spirit, I ought to be able to handle this myself.
  5. It was not a "big" sin, so it's not that big a deal.
  6. It's not a besetting sin, just occasional.
  7. They're just going to tell me what I already know.
  8. I can change on my own. I don't really need the help of others.
  9. This is something I'm working on.
  10. I'm making progress so I don't need to share this.
  11. I can just apply the counsel I've already received.
  12. It's not a strength of mine, but it's probably not really a sin either.
  13. I see the heart issues clearly already.
  14. Others know this is a problem, so I don't need to confess it again.
  15. I've already repented and made changes.
  16. I've confessed it to God and my wife.
  17. I've already confessed it to people who know me better.
  18. Other problems in the group are bigger than this.
  19. They don't really understand my struggle.
  20. I've got so much work to do. I need to be a good steward of my time and responsibilities.
  21. This is more serious than these folks can handle.
  22. I don't know if I can trust them with this information.
  23. They will lose all respect for me if I share this.
  24. They are busy, too busy to hear my confession right now.
  25. I don't know that I'll ever really change in this area.
  26. I don't think folks in my group are strong in this either.
  27. They won't respond well if I confess again.
  28. What would happen if they really knew about this in my life?
  29. I want a reputation of having my life under control and people to think I can handle all of life's challenges and discern my own sins.
  30. I don't want to look bad, I don't want to look bad, I don't want to look bad.